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Senior Housing or The Lack Thereof. What to do........ I'm sure many of you out there are looking for a good and healthy environment for one of your loved ones to live when the time comes. What does one do when there isn't any and how does one handle a "special" situation? I have a brother who is 57 years old. He suffers from diabetes and has developed some of the most devastationg aspects of this dis-ease. His vision is affected, he has neuropathy in both hands and both feet, has had surgery to remove affected digits and he requires help with insulin set up and administration. He is too young to be in a traditional long term care facility and he doesn't qualify for many assisted living units due to finacial constraints and/or age restrictions, or lack of qualified staff at the assisted living facilities or residences available. There aren't many. Period. Due to life circumstances, my brother is now in a long term care facility where he is simply fading away. Plans for his care were at one time in place but they were lost to other circumstances beyond his control. He is depressed, lonely, doesn't have many resources to get himself out and about and he has been trying since September to find a place to call home. Because he does not have private insurance and lack of ability to private pay, he has been turned away from several local assisted living facilities that market themselves as having state program eligibility but require that most residents private pay for two or more years and then they will accept state funding. Something seems wrong with that. Either you accept state programs or you don't. Limiting one or two units out of 50+ for state program eligibility seems greedy and self serving. I know that these are businesses and they are in the business of making money but at what cost to those seniors who need them? I would ask everyone to think about this situation as the near future holds the same issues that exist now and with the aging "Baby Boomer" generation, the need for these types of facilities will grow exponentially. I would suggest that more housing needs to be built or existing buildings retro fitted for this purpose. And, they all need to accept as many people as possible who are on state programs, as they have units if they are going to accept these programs. I am in need of help for my brother. He is falling through the cracks and no one is stepping forward to catch him. He has social workers, financial workers and senior advocates and myself working for him but their hands are tied. Only the private sector can help with this issue and the state needs to work with those facilities who are licensing themselves as state progams acceptable. These places need to start opening more units for those in need who cannot afford the private pay option. There are so many with only their social security to live on and those who are younger and are limited to their social security income who need somewhere to call home. Help is needed not just for my brother, but for all who find themselves with their hands tied due to financial issues. I would strongly ask/encourage those who are having the same issues contact the MN DHS and talk to their representative and senators to try to address and resolve this issue. Even those who are not faced with this dilemma might want to consider investigating and getting your answers now because at some point, we all will face the same issues. Thanks for listening -
Mar 15, 2011 | 2061 views | 16 16 recommendations | email to a friend | print

blueheron121 I don't think
by blueheron121
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Apr 12, 2011 | 17 17 recommendations | email to a friend | print

I don’t think you sound cold or cruel. Simply realistic and I am in total agreement with you. I took care of my dad for 25 years after my mom passed away and I would take care of my brother in a heart beat if I could. He has medical conditions that I am not qualified to address as well as some personal help that I can’t give him.
I can check his blood sugars and administer his insulin on a sliding scale, I can help him to get around but due to my own restrictions (torn rotator cuff, old fractured vertebrae) I am not able to lift him or help him shower or several other basic needs that he deserves. I don’t have anyone else to help me. No nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles or cousins in the area at all so I have to pursue this course. I have lost my job and am not meeting my financial obligations and it would be terrible if I moved him in here, even with help from a home care provider, to lose my house and then have both of us without homes. If he is in assisted living, at least I know he is safe and secure there and getting all of the help he needs. I want nothing but the best for him and it hurts me that I can’t provide that for him. We have always been best of friends and it would make me happy to have him here with me where I can take care of him to the best of my ability, but at what cost to his care? It is a conundrum that I would not wish on anyone so I encourage everyone to start well ahead of time with plans for a loved ones care if they are not able to take care of them. I am glad to hear your story and it would be wonderful to have lots of family around to help each other but we just don’t. Family’s should be together and that is one of our societal problems these days. It’s sad really. Ah for the simpler times of yesterday.

I do not mean to sound cold
by Debbie Boe
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Mar 30, 2011 | 17 17 recommendations | email to a friend | print

I do not mean to sound cold and cruel, but can’t someone in the family take him in? There was a time in this country when this was common. With the sizable aging group of baby boomers, of which I am on the tail end of, I do not think our society will have much choice but to revert to the past practice of taking in our ailing relatives. This was once a very loving gesture in our country. I think serious consideration should be given to the return of this practice. There just is not enough money to pay for expansion of the alternate system that has developed in this country during my lifetime.
My grandparents took in both of my grandmothers parents. Her father, Charles, was a very large man who developed diabetes. When his wife was no longer able to care for him alone, they moved in with my grandparents. Charles diabetes continued to deteriorate to the point where he could no longer walk. My grandmother talked about his blackening feet and his needs for physical care. They provided the care he needed. My grandfather and two of my teenage uncles used to lift Charles out of bed, sit him on a kitchen chair, and carry him (on the chair) to places in the house where he could sit for a while. Charles died in my grandparent’s home. His wife Mabel also lived with them, but did not need any care. She died in my grandparent’s home a few years later.

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